Each month, we post a series of blogs around a common topic. This month, Sara Dingman is curating a series on the #metoo movement and the church. The series will feature recollections, sermons, and art. We honor the women who have shared their stories, and hope their courage might inspire others to seek the support they need to speak their truth too in ways that are best for them. The National Sexual Assault Telephone Hotline is always available to support survivors of sexual assault. We invite you to join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter.
by abby mohaupt
most days I don’t think about the men who betrayed me
the men who saw the line and crossed it
the men who watched them do it
the men who told me to be quiet.
But some days,
the moments of betrayal are like coals—
if I blow on them, the pain burns into life
and all my old scars ache.
the days when the new pastor at my first church apologizes to my father but not to me
(even though I was the one who lost herself)
the days when the photo of my rapist at my fifth church appears on my social media
with the high praise from others accompanying him with singing
the days when the tune of his grooming rings in my ears:
“heart of my own heart whatever befall”
I’m not asking you to fix me
(thank you, Jesus)
I’m just asking you to sit with me awhile
and wait for hope.
The video below (the first part is intentionally dark) originally appeared at Ecclesio in an article entitled “Bodies of Hope and Harrasment.” It is, in part, my grappling with what it means to survive in a #metoo and #churchtoo world.
abby mohaupt is a long distance runner and multi-media artist. An ordained teaching elder, she regularly teaches on vocational discernment, eco-feminist theology, and creativity.